We answer your disability-related sex and relationship questions. This week: 1. would disabled people rather not be; 2. little people and regular, ol' sized babies; 3. whether handicapped bathroom stalls are handicapped exclusive. Post your questions here.



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Toshio: Do disabled people wish that they were not disabled? That's a good question.

Caitlin: That is a good question. Uh...

T: What do you think?

C: I would say the majority of disabled people are cool with being disabled, and don't wish they were able-bodied.

T: Uh-huh.

C: I would say that there's a distinction in what you are wishing for. You might not want to wish you were able-bodied, but maybe you wish you could get into that bar easier, or you could, um, get a job easier without discrimination. So there are definite perks to being able-bodied that I think it's really natural to be envious about. But you don't necessarily want to be able-bodied – I don't.

T: Right, right. There are disabled people out there though, like Christopher Reeve, for example...

C: Yeah, he hated being disabled. He's, like, my least favorite person. But, um, and a lot of disability rights activists thought he was extremely dangerous to the disability rights movement. So, there are, sure, I mean -

T: There's a few bad apples...

C: Yeah, there's people who have a lot of internalized ableism.

T: Mm-hmm.

C: So, yeah, but I would say the majority are fine with being disabled. Good question.

T: Good answer.

C: Thank you.

T: Do little people always have little people babies?

C: No.

T: No.

C: No.

T: No, it's not true. And actually, like, even - I've seen – I don't know if you've ever seen that show “Little People Big World,” but they have -

C: Yeah, yeah.

T: ...some -

C: ...regular sized -

T: ...regular, ol', sized kids -

C: ...regular old, boring, normal kids.

T: In addition – yeah, totally.

C: No – I'm sure their kids are fine. I don't actually know their kids, so... But I think most little people actually end up having non-little people babies.

T: It's maybe, like, a genetic thing, like it's dominant?

C: I have no idea how it works.

T: Science!

C: I'm not Mr. Wizard, so go ask him. But no.

T: I always use the handicapped stall -

C: This is you -

T: ...and is this wrong.

C: You wrote this.

T: No, but I'm really interested in knowing the answer. I actually, personally, don't think it's wrong.

C: No, it's not wrong.

T: I think – I think you shouldn't take your time necessarily -

C: Those are sweet stalls -

T: Yeah, they're sweet stalls -

C: Those stalls are rad -

T: Yeah those stalls are huge, huge -

C: Yeah, well – if they're made properly.

T: Right.

C: Some of the so-called, you know, handicapped stalls are actually just tiny, and I don't know why they even bother -

T: Advertising them as such.

C: I can't even get in them. Yeah, exactly. But – no, those are sweet stalls, dude. Use them. Just don't use them when a disabled person needs them, that's all.

T: Don't shoot up in them, either.

C: No, don't do a lot of things – just go in there to use the bathroom, and that's it. Don't do anything else.

T: Agreed.

C: Alright. Agreed.

T: Glad we agree to agree.