We answer your disability-related sex and relationship questions. This week: 1. disabled porn; 2. the worst thing you can ask a disabled person; 3. Where's Lulu's official stance on sex surrogates. Post your questions here.



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Toshio: Is there any disabled porn, and do you watch it?

Caitlin: [Laughs.] Um, is that for me or for you?

T: I don't know. Well, Anonymous didn't--

C: Didn't specify?

T: Yeah, didn't specify.

C: Yeah, of course there's disabled porn. There's porn for anything.

T: There's porn for everything.

C: For anything and everything. I'm not much of a porn-watcher, so no. You know, I'm sure there's good disabled porn out there, and I don't begrudge anyone...

T: Are there any websites you can recommend?

C: That are specifically disabled porn? I don't know any--

T: Yeah, like somebody who might want to sponsor this podcast.

C: [Laughs.] Yeah, if there are any good ones, I mean, and they're positive...

T: Send them to us. We want to know.

C: Yeah, if they're sex-positive, disability-positive – I don't see anything wrong with that.

T: OK.

T: What is the question that you least want to hear from an able-bodied person?

C: Oh, that's easy, and a good question. “What's wrong with you?”

T: What is wrong with you?

C: That's just rude, and intrusive, and annoying. So don't ask people that.

T: OK, so--

C: Let them – if they – I think a good thing to take away from this is if you're friends with a disabled person, or you're getting to know someone, let them tell you what they want you to know.

T: Right.

C: Let's all be a little more polite.

T: OK.

C: Good manners are highly underrated.

T: True that.

T: What's your opinion on sex surrogates?

C: We're getting a lot of sexy questions.

T: Yeah, I, um, so I don't actually know what a sex surrogate is. I've heard the term before – what is it?

C: OK. So, a sex surrogate is someone who is trained, and they are basically there to help guide disabled people to have sex. So there's people who -

T: Like, vocally, or...?

C: No, not vocally but – actually assisting in the process.

T: OK, physically.

C: So physically there, to help you have sex.

T: So can you guide us through a scenario?

C: So it would be someone that you were working with when you are with your partner, and you are in the mood, and they will be there to assist, you know, actually in getting 'er done.

T: OK – connecting the puzzle pieces.

C: Yeah, yeah.

T: Got it.

C: So was the question – what's your opinion on it? I think it's great.

T: OK.

C: I think it's great.

T: Thumbs up, sex surrogates.

C: Yeah – why not?